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Why do you want your Twin Flame?

I love this question, because it can be read in two different ways. The first one is asking yourself why. Why do you want your Twin Flame? What are you looking to achieve by having them in your life?

The second way of reading this question is to know why you have this desire for them. How is it that you can’t seem to shake these feelings off? 

Regardless of which of these two questions you are seeking to answer, this blog will provide you with some insights in these regards.

So, why do you want your Twin Flame?

If you are reading this, I must assume that you are on the search for your Twin Flame. But, why? Why do you want a connection with your Twin Flame? Is it to enjoy the juiciness of your relationship together? Or is it to fill an emotional void?

Asking yourself these questions is important. When you are looking to be with your Twin Flame, you are looking to be with all of who you are. Twin Flames aren’t like any other romantic relationship. They are deeper than that, and very few people truly understand what it really means to want your Twin Flame. So, depending on what you are looking for, this may, or may not, be the right path for you. 

Getting clear on your desires

Knowing what you want and why is the first step. The clearer you are about these answers, the better, because that clarity will make it easier to walk towards your desires. This is important because, without this compass, it’ll be too easy to throw in the towel when things get difficult. When the journey does not quite unfold as you expected. You want to make sure you know exactly what you want, and what you are getting yourself into. That way, you know you’ll stay the course, no matter what, because your desires are stronger than the challenges. 

The Essence of Twin Flames

As we’ve shared in many of our previous blogs, Twin Flames are more than just a romantic relationship. They are the Ultimate relationship

Twin Flames are eternal lovers, who share a deep, special and spiritual bond together. This bond exists because the purpose of Twin Flames is to help each other ascend into your perfect state of being. Easily said: to become the best version of you, you can possibly be at every moment.

In this sense, your Twin Flame is not only your eternal companion, but your Ultimate Lover. And, as such, they will be holding a mirror to help you identify where you aren’t in alignment with the truth of who you are. By doing this, you can, then, release any fears or false beliefs you may have about yourself. Doing this allows you to see the truth of who you are as a Divine being. 

The Question remains: Why do you want your Twin Flame?

As you can see, having your Twin Flame with you is more than just enjoying cozy movie nights and romantic dates. Being with your Twin Flame is also about releasing what is holding you back. It is about becoming more of who you are. Is about embracing your own uniqueness and about getting to know yourself in ways you may have never imagined. 

The Twin Flame journey is one of self-discovery and personal growth. If this is at the core of what you are seeking, then you can definitely have a great time being with your Twin Flame. 

On the contrary, if you are not open to change, nor to explore yourself in any way, being with your Twin Flame might be quite uncomfortable. Why? Because your Twin Flame is designed to show you these aspects of yourself. 

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I’m not saying this to scare you. I’m sharing this with you, because in our Coaching practice we’ve seen it many times. Clients who would come to us seeking help, only to realize the journey was about something else. That it was more than just chilling and watching Netflix with their Twin Flames on a saturday night. 

The journey is about healing, growth and self-improvement. By the time they realized this, their whole journey had already become intolerable, because they weren’t seeing it correctly. My goal is to assist you in making an informed decision, because that is what’s most compassionate for you.

Unconditional Love: the heart of the journey

Now that you know that this journey is about healing, we can take it a step further. Healing means exactly that. Just as you would go to a doctor when something in your body isn’t going well, the same applies to your emotional well-being. Some do it through therapy, others, through religion. There are those who do it through some spiritual practices. 

Regardless of the venue you choose, your Twin Flame journey is meant to support you in healing your emotional and spiritual wounds. The main goal and purpose of having your Twin Flame into your life is having a partner in your healing process. Someone who can hold the mirror to help you see what you, otherwise, would not be able to spot. A person who can also hold space for you as you learn to give love to these wounded parts of your consciousness. A person who can see past the things you don’t like about yourself. Someone who can love you unconditionally, when you can’t do that for yourself just yet.

Twin Flame Mirror Exercise

Mirroring Souls: Seeing Yourself in Your Twin Flame

As I’ve shared earlier, Twin Flames have the capacity of being each other’s perfect mirrors. This means that, whenever your Twin Flame is doing something that upsets you, they are holding the mirror for you. They do this, so that you can easily find these misaligned thoughts and beliefs and, hopefully, choose to bring love there. 

Our Twin Flame Teachers, Jeff & Shaleia Divine, always say that we are never upset for the reasons we believe. And I have come to realize that is entirely true. As you learn to apply the Mirror Exercise, you will find upsets are a gateway to inviting more love in your life. And as you do, you will come to see your Twin Flame has been loving you unconditionally all along. This, of course, can spark some challenges. 

The biggest Twin Flame challenge

How do you react when something in your body hurts and the doctor needs to touch it for examination? You probably pull away from them instinctively, to prevent the doctor from touching it, right? The same happens with our emotional wounds. 

Whenever we experience pain, our first reaction is to not want to touch it. To seek ways to cover it, so that we don’t continue feeling that pain. But just as with your body and the necessary medical exams, the only way to heal is by going to where it hurts. Doing so is what allows you to find the appropriate treatment, and once you know how to heal, you no longer need to experience that pain. 

This exact same thing takes place with your Twin Flame. It isn’t that THEY are causing you pain. The pain was already there. They are only showing it to you, so you can treat it. 

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This is the biggest challenge in your Twin Flame journey: going back to the places you feel hurt. Not because you are seeking to prolong the suffering, but because you are seeking to heal at the core. 

Oftentimes, this is the aspect of the journey that gets most underestimated. It is the part of the journey that gets most people discouraged from pursuing their Twin Flame Union. Hence this blog. 

Now that you have a clear picture of your Twin Flame journey, the question remains: Do you want your Twin Flame?

If the answer is still “yes”, congratulations! You are ready to continue embarking on this beautiful journey. One that promises you lots of relief, peace and joy, for you’ll be on your way of getting rid of the things preventing you from living a fulfilling life. So, if you are ready, I invite you to check this Free Twin Flame Ascension Introductory Course, by Twin Flames Universe. This free course will provide you with the perfect foundation for your Twin Flame Union, and will guide you perfectly on your next steps. 

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