Today, I wanted to talk about finding true, everlasting love at the age of 40. I don’t know about you, but I grew up being told that if I wasn’t married by the age of 30, wel… my life would pretty much end there, lol.
For many of us, love, real love, felt like this elusive thing. I remember seeing my classmates in highschool, or in University, all dating, finding someone who wanted to be with them, all while my crushes were all unrequited love. I also remember getting into my first relationship at 18, afraid that I would never find my “one and only", which led to a rather disastrous relationship to say the least.
And, if you are in your late 20s, early 30s and still looking, I get the feeling that you may be starting to wonder if having a committed, loving relationship would ever happen for you, too.
As a Twin Flame coach, I’ve walked this path myself. And, in spite of my many doubts along my journey to my true love, I’ve managed to find him. Since then, we’ve been living together and we are closing in on our soon-to-be wedding day.
How did I manage to survive the stereotypes, and have my “happily ever after” at 40s?... Grab a cup of coffee, settle in, and let me share some of my own personal secrets with you.
Finding true love at 40: Embrace Your Journey
Finding true love, and being able to marry him/her at 40 can feel like an uphill battle, especially when there’s still this cultural belief about women and marriage. Many of us women grow up being told that “we better be married to a good man by 30, or else we’ll die alone”. But this is far -very far- from the truth. While dating can be discouraging sometimes, it is, however, leading you to your goal of finding “the one”.
It's essential to embrace your journey with open arms and a hopeful spirit. Instead of dwelling on past disappointments or perceived shortcomings, you can leverage these experiences to your advantage. Looking into what failed, and why, can hold the key to finding your true love, because it can help you get clear on what you desire and what you don’t.
Overcoming Self-Limiting Beliefs
One of the biggest obstacles to finding true love at 40 is often our own self-limiting beliefs. Many of which, we probably learned as children. I know I did.
Whether it's the fear of rejection, feeling too old, or believing we're unworthy of love, these negative thoughts can sabotage our chances of finding true happiness. More so, they may even be making us push love away, completely unaware that this is what we are doing.
It's crucial to find ways of looking at these beliefs while replacing them with thoughts of self-worth and deservingness. Remember, you are deserving of love at any age, and your past does not define your future. On the contrary, it paves the way to your perfect partner, as finding true love at 40 begins with believing in yourself.
Navigating Modern Dating
In today's digital age, the world of dating has undergone significant changes, presenting both opportunities and challenges for those seeking love at 40, though not limited to this age.
From online dating apps to social media, the options can feel overwhelming, but it's essential to approach modern dating with an open mind and a discerning heart.
Take the time to get clear on what your values and desires for your perfect partner are. Do only what feels good to you. If online dating isn’t your thing, don’t fret, your perfect partner always finds a way to you. Paco did, and we were both living on opposite ends of the world, when we met in the most unthinkable of places to me: a Facebook group.
Cultivating Authentic Connections
In your quest for love, it's easy to get caught up in superficial attraction or societal expectations. However, true love transcends any physical appearances or cultural norms. True love is always rooted in authenticity and a deep sense of connection.
Take the time to get to know yourself on a deeper level and identify the qualities and values that are non-negotiable in a partner. By prioritizing this authenticity and genuine connection, you'll increase your chances of finding a meaningful and lasting relationship.
If you’ve been around for a while, you’ll probably notice that your closest friends are the ones with whom you feel safe being yourself. The same applies to your one true love, the one we refer to as your Twin Flame.
In love, such as in friendship, your authenticity is what brings you closer to the person of your dreams.
Embracing Hope and Possibility
As Twin Flame coaches who have found love in our late 30s, we want to reassure you that your perfect romantic relationship is out there, regardless of your age or circumstances.
Trusting that your life’s journey and choices are leading you towards your ultimate romance is key. As you stay open to new experiences, continue to work on yourself. Finding true love at 40 -or at any age for that matter- is not just a dream; it's a reality waiting to be embraced.
Believe in the power of love to transform your life at any age, as finding true love is a deeply fulfilling and transformative experience. By embracing your journey, overcoming self-limiting beliefs, navigating modern dating with authenticity, cultivating genuine connections, and embracing that light of hope within, you'll set yourself on the path to finding the love you deserve.
