Everyone who has ever been in love, and more so, in a relationship will know that not everything is always a bed of roses. We often find ourselves at crossroads, unsure whether our relationship is leading us to heavenly bliss or plunging us into the depths of despair.
In a world where not everything is what it seems, and where Twin Flames are now introducing a completely new approach on relationships, how can we know whether we are investing ourselves into a romance that feels heavenly, or one that feels like hell?
Let’s find out.
How Can I Tell “Relationship Heaven” from “Relationship Hell”?
In this context, let us begin with bringing clarity as to what I mean by “relationship Heaven” and “relationship hell”.
The first speaks of a relationship that feels perfect at its core. Even, in spite of the challenges and misunderstandings with your partner. Relationship heaven refers to the kind of relationship where you and your partner share the same values and vision for life. A relationship in which you both make the core choice to work at it and support each other to the best of your abilities. A relationship that improves and deepens as you both work through the rough spots in your connection. A romantic partnership based and grounded in peace and unconditional love.
On the contrary, relationship hell is the kind of relationship in which only you work at keeping it breathing. A relationship based on fear of being alone or not finding the right partner. A relationship based on self-hate or abuse. Relationship hell is the kind in which you and your partner share very little to no values at all. One in which you both desire completely different things that do not even complement each other in any way. A relationship where you can’t agree on your vision for life, yet settle to be with each other out of unresolved fears regarding love and romance. It is a relationship in which you barely ever get to resolve the core issue you are having with one another.
Recognizing Toxic Patterns
Toxic patterns are present in both “relationship heaven” and “relationship hell”. These patterns can poison even the most promising relationships, leading to resentment, mistrust, heartache, and ultimately, break-up. Even amongst the most loving of couples.
From constant arguing to emotional manipulation, or even abuse, it's crucial to recognize these patterns early on, as they hold the key to revealing whether we are in a toxic relationship that should be ended or, whether there is love at the core, yet one -or both of you- are just experiencing a reenactment of previous hurts.
By acknowledging and addressing these patterns at the core, you can begin the process of healing thus rebuilding a healthier foundation for your relationship, which will, eventually, prove itself to be either a heavenly relationship, or one doomed to become a living hell.
Cultivating Open Communication
Unlike in relationship hell, in relationship heaven communication becomes the backbone of Union. Although miscommunication and misunderstandings are common in any relationship, learning to communicate openly, honestly, and empathetically can bridge the gap between you and your partner. When this open and honest communication is open and honest, and there is an open door to work together as a team, you can nurture and build a bond based on mutual respect and trust, thus leading to cultivating a beautiful and loving relationship.
Setting Boundaries
Boundaries are also essential for preserving individuality and maintaining a healthy balance in relationships. Without healthy boundaries, you and your partner may feel suffocated or overwhelmed, resulting in unnecessary conflicts or resentment. By openly discussing and sharing what your boundaries are within your relationship, you can create a supportive environment where you both feel respected and valued. This also helps you prioritize your self-care, honoring your needs and your partners. Doing so supports your in fostering a sense of safety within the relationship, because now you trust you don’t need to abandon yourself in order to be with this other person.
Embracing Self-Discovery
True fulfillment in relationships begins with understanding and accepting oneself. Self-discovery allows individuals to cultivate self-love, confidence, and authenticity, laying the groundwork for meaningful connections with others. By exploring interests, passions, and personal values, individuals can attract partners who align with their true selves, fostering genuine and lasting love, ultimately leading to finding love and happiness.
Seeking Support in Finding Love and Happiness
Despite our best efforts, relationships aren’t exempt from challenges. Having support from trusted friends, family members, a community, or professional counselors can provide valuable insights and guidance. Whether it's attending couples therapy, joining support groups, or seeking individual counseling, reaching out for help is a courageous step towards healing and growth. Remember, the path to love and happiness is not always easy, but it is undoubtedly worth the journey.
If you find yourself struggling in your relationship and you are seeking guidance on the path to eternal love and happiness, reach out to us for support. We have plenty resources we can share with you to assist you in going from relationship hell to relationship heaven.