Do You Have to Be Perfect to Manifest Your Divine Masculine?

For years, I carried the belief that in order to be with my Twin Flame, I had to have it all figured out. I thought I needed to heal every trauma, achieve financial stability, have a crystal-clear life purpose, and an unshakeable self-esteem. Only then—so I believed—would love finally arrive.

But that’s not what happened. And today, I want to share with you how I manifested my Divine Masculine not from perfection, but from a deep commitment to my healing.

This is the story of how Paco came into my life—at a time when nothing looked ready, but my soul was.

The Myth of Perfection Blocks You from Manifesting Your Divine Masculine

I can’t remember exactly when "it" began, the idea that I had to be perfect to be loved… but I know it shaped all my relationships.

Before every date, I felt I had to hide something about me, to mask my broken parts or whatever I thought wasn’t “presentable” or “acceptable.” I would hide my real feelings, or honest thoughts. I'd dress in a way that would conceal the parts of my body I deemed unlikeable. I'd try to be as witty as possible to prove I was intelligent... I could never truly be myself.

But with Paco—my Twin Flame—it was different. We met when I was at my lowest. I had just landed back at my mom’s house after a failed attempt to move to Europe. No job, no savings, and sleeping on a mattress on the floor. And it was in that exact moment—when I chose to pursue my purpose as an Ascension Coach—that Paco showed up. Not when life looked perfect, but because I had finally said yes to love and to my truth.

Manifesting Your Divine Masculine Requires Willingness, Not Perfection

At that point in my life, I didn’t feel “ready” at all. I felt like a failing mother, overwhelmed that I couldn’t provide for my son the way I wanted to, and terrified of the future… But for the first time in a long while, I had faith. I had begun healing through the Mirror Exercise and the Teachings of Union, and they were giving me a peace I’d never felt before.

A few months later, I was invited to co-host a Twin Flame Ascension School (TFAS) discussion group. It was outside my comfort zone, but something in me knew it was time to step up and lead. The moment I accepted… Paco appeared.

Back then, he still identified as Cornelia. His body was female. So was his voice. And I was a broke single mom with a child and a distant dream of moving abroad. None of it looked like my “romantic ideal.” But something in our souls recognized each other nontheless.

Choosing Truth Over Appearance: What Helped Me Manifest My Divine Masculine

In January 2020, many students at TFAS began discovering the true identity of their Twin Flames. Some even found themselves in same-gender Unions, despite never identifying as LGBTQ+ before.

That’s when I felt God ask me:“What if Cornelia is your Twin Flame?”

At first, the idea didn’t sit well with me. But by then, I had been studying the Teachings of Union for over two years. I knew that if we were truly Twin Flames, we had chosen this in our Union as One. I also knew that if something triggered me, I could heal it.

The real question wasn’t “Can I accept this?” but:“ Am I going to miss out on the love of my life because of a discomfort or expectation I can heal?” My answer was no. I chose love—even if my Twin Flame came in a body different than what I had imagined.

It Wasn’t Perfect, But We Chose Each Other Every Step of the Way

Over a year passed before we revisited our connection. By then, Paco had come out as a trans man, legally changed his name, and stepped into his true identity. In April 2021, felt guided to explore our connection and we had a long, honest conversation over Zoom. We compared our Love Lists—and realized we were what each other had been searching for all our lives.

Two months later, I moved to Austria with my son, and Paco and I achieved physical Union. But that didn’t mean everything was easy or perfect yet. I had to cross the Atlantic during a pandemic, and we had to build a new life together—adapting to different cultures, roles. Our finances still weren't ideal either, and needed healing. So Paco got himself a job in a factory, and I worked as a cleaning lady, scrubbing toilets for a living.

But one thing never changed: we kept choosing each other. Every single day.

Your Twin Flame Loves You Exactly as You Are

If today you believe that you need to be fully healed, ready, or “presentable” to manifest your Divine Masculine… that’s not true.

Your Twin Flame already sees you as perfect in Divine Truth. External circumstances do not change how they feel about you. The only thing that can block your Union is believing it’s not possible.

From my experience as a coach, most people don’t fail to manifest their Divine Masculine because they can’t—but because they convince themselves that external conditions are more powerful than love. And so, they give up before even trying.

But in my journey, I found the best way to manifest your Divine Masculine is to use your emotions, your challenges, your insecurities as fuel for healing. Because when you do, you open the way for your Union to become a real, tangible thing.

I lived it. I went from not having a roof over my head or a clear direction… to living in Harmonious Union, married and on purpose, with the love of my life.

Many of my clients have manifested their Divine Masculines without having it all figured out either And this is possible for you as well.

If you feel it’s time to take your first step, I invite you to book a session, join my beginners’ group coaching, or start with one of my workshops. It all starts with one decision: Choosing love, now.

Written by Déborah Hendel, July 2025